(Again, sorry so long…)
As my daughter has grown and developed she has begun to reflect in her own personality some of the habits, speech, and attitudes of my wife and I. Based on physical appearance alone there is no doubt that she is in our fact our child. She’s got her dad’s bright blue eyes and her mom’s beautiful smile. Yet even if she looked nothing like either one of us there would still be an undeniable resemblance between her as our child and us as her parents. She not only is saying some of the things we say, but she is saying them how we say them. She’s learned our routine, what we do and how we do it, where we go and when we go there. She’s got her mom’s persistence and her dad’s determination. There is no question that she belongs to us. The more she grows and develops the more we see evidences of ourselves in her. The more she becomes the person she is the more we see the type of people we are. In many ways she is a reflection of us, not only physically but in character as well.
John beautifully articulates how we as the children of God will ultimately bear an undeniable resemblance to the One whom we belong to when he writes, “…we are children of God, and what we will be has not yet been made known. But we know that when he appears, we shall be like him, for we shall see him as he is.” (1 John 3:2) John’s encouragement is this: We are works in progress, continually growing and developing and moving towards becoming more accurate reflections of our Heavenly Father. We’re learning what God does and how He does it; where God goes and when He goes there. We’re learning what God says and how He says it. We are continually growing and developing into people who manifest the evidences of God in our lives. We are a reflection of Him, in speech and in life and in conduct. Ultimately, one day, who we are will be so radically transformed that we will “be like him”, a beautifully untainted and unblemished reflection of the One to whom we belong. This future reality is the basis for our present hope. Our hope is not dependent upon how hard we try or how much effort we put forth. The basis of our hope is the work of Christ completed on our behalf. John speaks of that future day when who we are will be completely restored and made new. He speaks of the hope we have in knowing that all we are and know and experience today is purposeful and intended to lead us to something greater and more complete. My present circumstances, therefore, are always pointing me towards a future reality. And yet that future reality is at all times bearing upon my present the responsibility to in all ways manifest the evidences of the person of Christ in my life. John concludes this passage with these words: “Everyone who has this hope in him purifies himself, just as he is pure.” (3:3) In light of the hope of our future reality, John calls us to purity in our present living. To “see him as he is” requires a moral and ethical response on our part. It carries with it behavioral implications for today. And so the natural expression of our hope in the future is to live lives of purity in the present, just as he is pure. So today we seek to live as His children – emulating Him, modeling Him, and reflecting who He is through who we are – so that our lives may more and more bear an undeniable resemblance to the one whom we call Father.
The message of the gospel is that life can reign over death, that light can break through the darkness, and that peace can transcend the conflicts of our present struggles, right here, right now, in the gap. The message of the gospel is that even in our incompleteness we are completely loved. The message of the gospel is that we can live with a confident understanding that God has not only intended something greater but has made a way through Jesus for something greater. Jesus’ announcement of the gospel was an announcement of a new way to live and be human. It was the introduction of a new existence, a new world. In this new reality we are able to live lives which are always leading towards hope and never towards despair, always towards truth and never towards illusion, always towards life and never towards death, always towards light and never towards darkness, always towards peace and never towards uneasiness. The realities of the gap are inevitable, and the conflict is unavoidable, but our hope transcends the lesser reality and longs for the new reality that God is seeking to establish in this world. The message of the gospel is about the glorious redemption of human life. The good news is that ordinary, incomplete people like you and me can now live within the presence and the power of God. This means that in part our story is the story of transformation. It is the story of change. We will not always be as we are now. God is working in us towards something incomparably better. As John Ortberg says, “The possibility of transformation is the essence of hope.” There is peace in the gap because there is hope in the conflict. Our story is the story of transformation. It is the story of change. We will not always be as we are now. The message of the gospel is this: There is hope. Hope in what will be produces a peace in what now is. Peace is not the absence of our conflict, but rather the presence of hope in the midst of that conflict.
Ernest Hemingway won the Nobel and Pulitzer prizes in literature, the highest accomplishments to be achieved by anyone in his field of work. He was rich, famous, and free to live life in any way he pleased. On his journey towards success he said that if he reached the top and found it to be empty and meaningless then he would not want to go on with life. Eventually he did reach the top, he did find it to be lacking something of sustenance and value, and He did take his own life. Shortly before he died he penned some of his final thoughts: Life is just a dirty trick. A short trip from nothingness to nothingness. There is no remedy for anything in life. Man’s destiny in the universe is like a colony of ants living on the end of a burning log. This is the picture of a very disappointed man; a man who lived a long life void of hope and meaning. In his search for fulfillment he came up empty. In the end it was all nothingness to him.
So what does a life look like that has been branded with the indelible marks of hope and meaning and purpose and growth? How does one move from nothingness to substance in their spiritual journey? What does true life change look like and how does transformation happen? What do we expect followers of Christ to look like over time? Often we expect some of their external behaviors to change. But do we really expect them to get rid of anger and bitterness and jealousy and resentment? Or do we just hope they will stop cussing, smoking and seeing R rated movies, and start giving and serving more? Maybe true life transformation is more than just replacing wrong behaviors with right ones. It has to be more than simply changing what we do; it’s about changing who we are. The tendency for most of us is to try harder to not do the wrong things, and hope that as a result we will begin to do the right things. I’ve seen time and time again Christians work so hard to eliminate certain sinful behaviors or habits or tendencies only to exhaust themselves spiritually and emotionally when they realize they just can’t seem to shake them. Despite all their efforts, all their hard work, all the boundaries and security measures and accountability procedures they have placed around them, they somehow find their way back to that sin. It is very devastating for people to go to such great lengths to prevent sin only to find that their desire for sin far exceeds their ability to avoid it. But maybe it’s more about becoming the right sort of person then it is about doing the right sort of things. Maybe as we progressively move towards becoming that person than doing the right things will become more of a natural part of who we are; they won’t be so forced. The good things we do will simply be expressions of the type of person we are. As Dallas Willard has said, “It is the inner life of the soul we must aim to transform, and then behavior will naturally and easily follow.” Naturally and easily follow. Those words sound so simple, and yet so far out of reach. The idea of naturally and easily feels very different to me than what I am used to experiencing in my efforts to stop sinning. Naturally and easily sounds so nice compared to trying harder and harder and harder and harder. Isn’t it interesting to consider how difficult it seems to attain something which sounds so simple? Why is that? Maybe in all of our trying harder we are actually making it harder than it needs to be.
So many of us become very intent on managing the gap by trying harder to do the right things and not do the wrong things only to come up frustrated and tired when we find that we can only manage the gap that way for so long. At some point we will slip up and do the wrong thing, or maybe even not do the right thing when we know we should, and where does that leave us? Feeling guilty, ashamed, and frustrated that we’re not stronger or more disciplined than we feel we should be. Our solution? Try harder the next time, and if need be, even harder the next. Persistent? Yes. But is persistence enough? Probably not.
One morning I was up early enjoying some coffee and some quiet. It was that peaceful part of the day, where the rush of life has not yet begun. And then it happened. Tap, tap, tap on the kitchen window. Confused as to what was going on I slowly moved into the kitchen where I saw a bright red cardinal flying into the window. Apparently birds will often see their reflections in windows, and to protect themselves will fly towards what they believe to be another bird in order to scare it away. Of course the reflection does not budge and the bird eventually crashes head first into the window. At first it was a bit humorous, I must admit, but very quickly the constant tapping on the window became quite irritating. I knocked on the window hoping to free the bird from this devastating cycle it had fallen into. It flew away and I thought that was the end of it. I returned to my chair, my coffee, and my quiet.
Within minutes it was back. Tap, tap, tap. Tap, tap, tap. At this point I was getting quite annoyed. All I wanted to do was enjoy the morning and this bird was seriously interfering with my ability to do that. I had some bible reading to get done and some praying to do, and all this tapping was really starting to frustrate me. The irony was great. In my efforts to read about and spend time with a very caring and compassionate and patient and kind and loving God, I found myself becoming very irritated and annoyed and frustrated that my time was being interrupted by this stupid bird. And then it hit me. I had decided that morning, as I do most mornings, that spending time with God meant me sitting in my chair, in the quiet, with my cup of coffee and my bible. The process usually went something like this: Pray. Sip. Read and sip. Pray and sip. Sip some more. Read more. Take the last sip. Pray. Done. And that was it. Another successful morning with God. After all, that is how I was taught to do it (I might have added the coffee part myself), and that is how I have always done it. So it must “work”, right? Maybe not. If all those mornings of repeating this cycle over and over again with God had produced nothing more in me than an ability to get very easily irritated and frustrated, then how well was this time with God stuff really “working”? It clearly was not producing within me the desired, or even expected, results that I was looking for. Is it important to spend some solitary quiet time with God? Absolutely. Jesus did so on many occasions. Is it also important to spend time reading and studying and knowing His word? Of course it is. But on whose terms? Mine, or God’s? For so long I had been regulating and dictating my spiritual life according to my own schedule and my own understanding of what it means to be in relationship with God. I had manufactured it to the point where it had lost most of its meaning. It had for the most part become void of passion and purpose. The romance was gone, and the excitement of knowing that I as a follower of Christ was a part of the epic story of God had slowly faded into a menial and habitual series of lifeless encounters with Him over a cup of coffee.
God did in fact want to meet with me that morning, I was just not aware that He planned to do so through a rather unconventional method, at least unconventional according to my understanding. There was something about that bird that really got to me. It was relentless in its efforts to accomplish its task at hand, but all it was really doing was beating itself against the window. What it was doing was just not working. I admired its persistence, and yet was confused by its ignorance.
That’s when I realized what it was God wanted to communicate to me. In my efforts to “do” the Christian life I had become very persistent and yet had grown increasingly ignorant all at the same time. I had minimized what it meant to grow spiritually to a short list of disciplines that I should consistently engage myself in, and a long list of habits and tendencies and temptations that I should work very hard at avoiding. And in all of that I had missed out on what it really meant to live and grow and be transformed. I realized in that moment that it is possible to work very hard at avoiding what is wrong while being persistent in doing what is right and still miss out on all that is good and holy and pure and beautiful. The spiritual life is more about what happens after I put down my cup of coffee and get out of that chair every morning than it is about the short 15 or 30 or 45 minutes I spend sitting there. The spiritual life as a follower of Christ is holistic in nature, encompassing every part of my being, not just my bible study, prayer life and regular church attendance. It should not be defined by, but only enhanced by, my time in that chair. Loving my wife well, raising my kids wisely, spending my money obediently, and using my time diligently are just as much a part of my spiritual life as any and all of those activities, practices or disciplines that we label as spiritual or religious. Isn’t it interesting that when most Christians are asked, “How is your spiritual life going?”, their typical response has something to do with the frequency or infrequency of their personal bible reading and the amount of time they are or are not spending in prayer? Yes, those are crucial components that play a vital role in our spiritual growth and development. But those practices are intended to move us towards a life that is holistically engaged in bearing an undeniable resemblance to the One whom we belong. It is very possible for me to diligently study the Scriptures, consistently spend time in prayer, and faithfully attend weekly church services while at the same time harbor bitterness, greed, lust and discontentment in my heart. It is possible for me to do all those things which appear to be spiritual on the outside very well and yet love my wife, raise my kids, spend my money and use my time very very poorly.
All of us at some point have smashed head first into that window, stepped back a bit dazed, and tried again, but a little bit harder the next time, and even harder the next. Many of us are frustrated because the Christian life as we have been taught it is just not “working”. We’ve convinced ourselves that the more spiritually busy we are the more spiritually healthy we are; only to find that the spiritual treadmill we are running on is getting us nowhere. We’ve tried so hard, but we simply cannot keep up. Deep within our souls we feel exhausted. Our persistence can only take us so far. My encouragement to you is this: It doesn’t have to be this way. In fact, it’s not supposed to be this way…